When Lying is Not so Normal

Lies are in the eyes

Normal people tell small lies on a daily basis, generally to smooth social interactions. However, there are two kinds of people for whom lying is part of serious personality disorders.

The first is the pathological liar. The other is the sociopath or psychopath.

The pathological liar tells big lies, often based in fantasy, that are easy to discredit.

While other people lie for some reason—to get what they want or to avoid punishment—the fictions of the pathological liar seem to have no reason behind them.

There’s no agreement among professionals as to whether pathological liars truly believe their stories, but their intent is more self-aggrandizement than manipulation.

Ted Bundy is lying to youThe infamously charming Ted Bundy. He was a real lady killer.

Another disordered type of liar is the sociopath or psychopath. These are people who have Antisocial Personality Disorder (ADP). We’re not talking about ax murderers here.

Most sociopaths and psychopaths are functioning members of society. With estimates that one in twenty-five people have APD, odds are you know several of them.

Some experts use the terms psychopath and sociopath interchangeably. Others make a distinction.

In getting what they want, sociopaths exercise no regard for the rights of others. They disregard laws and social norms. Their behavior is often erratic and they are prone to nervousness and fits of rage.

“One of the creepiest qualities in a psychopath is how likable they are.”

Sociopaths are capable of empathy in some situations, but psychopaths are almost entirely incapable of empathy.

MRI studies have shown significant differences in the brains of psychopaths.

They do not form true attachments to others, they do not experience love, and they do not feel remorse. They have no conscience at all.

To the contrary, psychopaths take pleasure in hurting. Psychopaths are not crazed lunatics. They are social predators who plan their actions with cold calculation.

Sometimes they commit heinous crimes that grab headlines. Most of the time, though, they blend undetected into society, often occupying positions of high power in corporations or government.

Evil is lurking in the mind of at least one person you know. Enjoy your day.
Evil is lurking in the mind of at least one person you know. Enjoy your day.

Protecting yourself from psychopaths is extremely difficult, and you will likely not realize you know one unless you are targeted.

They are bullies and social manipulators who contrive to bring others to ruin, and they do all this in plain sight while appearing normal—even likable—to others.

One of the creepiest qualities in a psychopath is how likable they are. Psychopaths are notoriously charming.

They often have piercing stares and glib, easy-going natures that the unknowing mistake for sincerity.

They will even perform small acts of kindness to appear caring. While they feel very little normal emotion, they study others and learn to mimic emotion.

But this is all a mask concealing an evil mind.

Is your handsome office crush a psychopath? Just hope you never find out.Is your handsome office crush a psychopath? Just hope you never find out.

It’s impossible to catch the psychopath in the act of lying, at least through the normal signs.

Normal people exhibit the signs of lying because they have a conscience. They feel discomfort and shame about lying.

Psychopaths have no conscience and therefore feel no shame at all. They feel entitled to manipulate others, seeing them not as human but as tools or playthings.

The best defense against psychopaths is to be alert to them. But be warned. If you attempt to unmask psychopaths, they will easily convince others that you are crazy, and then engage in a “smear campaign” to ruin your social reputation.

Unfortunately, if you find yourself the target of a psychopath, the only thing you can do is walk away.

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